Sometimes a book hits you in the heart and pulls you in. This is how I felt about the beautiful book written by Ron Fournier, Love That Boy.
From the first chapter I was hooked and if I could have read it straight through I would have done just that. The book takes you on a father’s journey with his young son with autism. I do not have a child on the spectrum but I still enjoyed the book and could relate to the situations even though my experiences are not quite as extreme. I feel like it was a great book to make you step back and reassess how we see the reactions our children have to certain situations and understand them more clearly. The struggles he faces are those that we as parents face everyday, whether your child is on the spectrum or not.
The book was a great combination of stories from their trip, facts and even a bit of advice. The stories made you feel like you were a fly in each situation, watching from the shoulder of Fournier as he encounters life as a dad. The facts were scattered throughout but well placed, making the book read smoothly. As for the advice, I am not even sure you should call it advice, it seemed more like a father relating what he had learned to his readers. Basically, take it or leave it. I choose to take quite a bit of it.
Here are some quotes from my commonplace journal:
We should refashion parenthood by tolerating pain, play, and failure. We should measure our children not by the mountains they conquer but by their efforts to climb. Oh – and let them pick which hills to scale.
“That’s the problem,” Tyler objects. His tone is matter-of-fact, not accusatory or defensive. “You have a picture in your head of what makes a kid happy. But then you havea kid and it doesn’t turn out that way. That just means your picture didn’t come true. It doesn’t mean I’m not happy. I have a different picture.”
People who focus on living with a sense of purpose are more likely to remain healthy and intellectually sound and even to live longer than people who focus on achieving feelings of “happiness” via pleasure.
Love That Boy would be a great addition to any
father’s parent’s library.